The Richmond Register

August 26, 2013

Who decided that these things are OK?

By Dick Ham
Register Columnist

RICHMOND — I was just thinking the other day about the way men dress and the way they present themselves.

I can’t think about those things without thinking about something my mother taught me. She said to me, time and time again, “Son, the first impression anyone has of you is your appearance. That is before they know anything about you, not even your name. You will always be more embarrassed to find yourself in a situation where you are too poorly dressed than if you are too well dressed.”

I recently saw a man in a church service, dressed in a beautiful black suit, with shoes that were well shined, but his shirt was a white t-shirt.

Men often wear a good suit and a lovely pocket square, with a dress shirt and tie, however, the shirt collar is unbuttoned and the tie pulled down.

I witnessed a man, in a black pin-stripe suit, dress shirt and tie with collar open and tie pulled down. but his shoes were brown penny loafers and he wore no socks.

Then there are those who wear a nice suit with a dress shirt, with shoes the correct color but without a tie.

I saw a man recently wearing a dark suit, dress shirt, tie but with white socks and sneakers.

Jeans are the single most obvious clothing item worn by men. Some wear those hanging down so low their underwear shows. Others wear them at times and in places where they are totally inappropriate.

I witnessed a man just a few days ago who was wearing faded jeans with a dress shirt and tie, of course with collar open and tie down, and with a very nice looking blazer and with large work boots.

A well trimmed beard or mustache is one thing, but there are straggly beards that look terrible and I can’t help wondering, who decided men look good with several day’s worth of stubble on their faces?

Hair is often very long and unkempt or pulled back and tied into a long ponytail.

Then there are piercings. The most common are pierced ear lobes. Ear rings are still hard for me to accept for men. Then there are those large circular things that are often seen in ear lobes. I can’t help wondering how in the world an ear lobe can be stretched enough to accommodate those.

Piercings on lips, eyebrows and nose are prevalent. Do they really look good?

How about tattoos? A tasteful tattoo, small and delicately placed is one thing, but how about those men who have literally covered their entire body with tattoos, some of which are naughty to say the least.

I expect that some who will read this will question my opinions. That is understandable. I do wonder how many others share my concern about the terrible and inappropriate way men present themselves in public today.

Will this continue to get worse, or will men once again begin to take pride in themselves and their appearance? Only time will tell.



TRIVIA ANSWER – The book that is now found in nearly every home that was introduced in New Haven, Conn., in 1878 is the Telephone Directory.



TRIVIA QUESTION – In 1899 a New York cab driver was issued the first traffic ticket for what offense?



THOUGHT FOR THE DAY – A fool and his money can throw one heck of a party.