The Richmond Register

February 16, 2014

“Why does everything seem to happen to me?”

Jennifer Napier
Special to the Register


You’re running late to work. Nothing seems to be going right today. You realized that your work clothes are still in the laundry. You decide on a last minute outfit and rush out the door.

As you get into the car you realize that there is a button missing on your shirt. You don’t have time to change, so you drive away. Within minutes, you realize that your gas gauge is low and you’re not even sure if you’ll have enough gas to get to work.

As you pull into the parking lot on fumes, it suddenly dawns on you that you forgot your lunch. “This is going to be a very long day” you think to yourself.

The time clock shows you are seven minutes late to work as you clock in. You know the policy states that anything over five minutes requires a write-up, so you walk to your work station with a high anxiety level because you anticipate that your boss will be coming to see you very soon. “What else could possibly go wrong today?” you grumble to yourself.

It feels like eternity, but eventually the boss makes his way over to your work station. He reminds you that you’ve been five minutes late or more, and called in sick, on four separate occasions during the past six months. The boss informs you that this will be the last write-up on you.

“The next time you’re late, you will be terminated” he stated.

Now you’re upset. The day seems to drag on slowly. You can’t concentrate on your work. When lunchtime arrives, you don’t have anything to eat.

After lunch, you go back to your work station hungry and distracted. You end up making mistakes before the work day is over because you were too hungry and too tired to be detail oriented.

After work, you climb into your car and head home. Within a few miles, the car sputters and stalls. You forgot about the gas gauge. You think “Why does everything seem to always happen to me?”

A lot of people want to complain and claim they are a victim of circumstances, but the harsh reality is that many times they created those circumstances.

If the story above described you, don’t seek sympathy from co-workers, friends or family members. You need to grow up and take responsibility for your own poor decisions. You are the one who created the circumstances that are jeopardizing your job.

You have a bad habit of not filling your car’s gas tank before it gets too low. You’re usually late because you don’t leave home on time. You were hungry because you didn’t pack your lunch. You made careless mistakes because your brain was more interested in food than on the details of your job.

If this article strikes a chord in your life, it’s time you learn to stop acting like a victim. Plan ahead, prioritize tasks and accept responsibility. If you change your mindset and habits, you’ll change your future.

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